Learning How to Make the Right Decisions

Testing Your Strength and Standing Behind Your Decisions

Aug 9, 2008 Taylor Bennett

Everyone comes to a point when they wonder if they have made the right decision. No one is perfect, but here are ways to make better decisions and stick with them.

If everyone made a perfect decision no one would be unique--making wrong decisions give character. However, no one can afford to make senseless mistakes all the time because they can be destructive. Making the right decision is hard, and there are several reasons for making the wrong ones. Knowing whether you've made the right decision and firmly standing behind it is an important and useful skill.

When Emotions Get in the Way of Making Good Decisions

Humans are receptive creatures in a world where feelings can be a downfall. When feelings get in the way of making decisions, it is that much harder to make the right choice. The right choice is usually not the simple choice, or it may feel bad. Don't confuse this feeling with instinct; when something feels wrong it probably is.

One decision that is hard to come by is choosing between protecting one's self or hurting someone else's feelings because this triggers human compassion. For instance, if you are in a negative relationship with someone you love, and it is affecting you, it would be smart to keep a distance despite the other person's feelings. Some people may stay in the relationship because it feels wrong to keep away, but they will continue to suffer and the situation may worsen. Making the right decision tests our strength and sometimes it hurts, but remaining strong is the key.

It can be as simple as this. For example, a baby is spoiled from being held too often. When putting him down, he cries hysterically and nothing is wrong. He is changed, fed, burped and has no pains. The right decision is to let him sit on his own because it will make him stronger, independent and less of a hassle. A mother may feel bad watching her son cry, but usually, a bad feeling (combined with the right choice) means that you are doing the right thing. In the future, he will be more disciplined.

Standing Behind Decisions and Never Going Back

After the decision is made, the problem is not over. Sticking with it is the toughest part. Guilt can chew away at a brick building. Having the discipline and strength to stay away from the negative relationships that become a routine is the next step.

Sometimes making the right decisions feels bad, but it will pay off in the future. The wrong ones feel good, but one minute of pleasure can cause a lifetime of pain.

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